Random Thoughts
OK iv been out a hell of a lot thses past 13 weeks (4/5 nights a week) and these are just a few random thoughts IV been having on certain subjects. (will post more as they come to mind).
Approach Anxiety
AA (approach anxiety) arises when our mind is away from the present moment and is instead focused on a mind imagined future, which tends to show a bad out come, a bad out come because the ego MUST BE RIGHT or it dies, the ego can not take risks it must be sure any action taken will strengthen it not weaken it so it projects an imagined future that works against us instead of with us to stop us from approaching.
Since the mind imagined future is not REALITY (the out come of our approach is still UNKNOWN) just thought. An anxiety GAP is created (AA) because we treat the mind imagined future as it if it where REALITY.
We get this feeling, of shrinking back from danger even tho there is very little danger of any thing happening that would be life threatening .
So best way to over come AA is to focus on what IS, the NOW, honour present moment since that is all that exists, there’s nothing out of it everything happens within the NOW (the present moment).
See girl you’re attracted to, asses situation and APPROACH, avoid thinking into mind imagined future and stay in the moment.
Spiking Emotions = Increase In Buying Temperature
Ok before I discovered what spiking emotions was I would go into a conversation with Neutral/platonic topics and questions, so there would be no buying temperature increase on the girls side.
Why? Because I wasn’t tapping into to her emotions, I was just trying to gain rapport. Now in DAY time this would work but in clubs/loud busy bars the conversation would go stale really fast, simply because I was asking and talking about what all the other guys before me where asking and talking about.
"whats your name"
"where you from"
"you come here often"
So recently IV been going out and throwing left field conversations, talking and asking about RANDOM shit that produces EMOTIONAL response’s, for example in the middle of a conversation I’ll sometimes go.
“You know before I came over to talk to you, I had this feeling that you’d be a real “bitch” but you’re actually ok”
They usually end up having this shocked look on there face then start qualifying them self’s. Anyway the whole point of me saying shit like that is to get an EMOTIONAL response out of her weather positive or negative it doesn’t matter as long as am tapping into her emotions.
